This subject has always interested me because I can see it from the good aspect and the bad aspect.
What is Flirting?
Flirt: noun/verb meaning to make advances toward someone. Definition: seducer, player, come on, bat eyes, make a pass, ogle, pick up, wink at, lead on and proposition.
Flirting is a Good Thing
Let’s take a look at the good of flirting in a marriage. Flirting with your mate can enhance spiciness in a marriage. It’s a playful way of sexually arousing each other. Being playful with your mate is healthy; it promotes a happy environment and contributes to bringing the two of you closer to each other. It’s letting your mate know you find them attractive. It’s the prelude to foreplay.
Flirting is a Bad Thing
Flirting outside your marriage is a dangerous act. In many cases it has lead to infidelity. For example: you notice an attractive co-worker. You wink, and he/she winks back. You both begin to comment on the appearance of each other, the outfit they are wearing, the hairstyles, etc. Eventually you begin speaking in more depth and learning more about their lives. This could lead to sharing intimate information about you and your mate’s lives, especially if you have had a recent disagreement or argument.
Flirting is an Ugly Thing
Before you know it, this person becomes a “shoulder for you to cry on” so to speak, available whenever you need someone to talk to and share your frustrations. Maybe over a cup of coffee or lunch or even dinner? Just to talk things out of course. Too bad your mate wasn’t more like this co-worker…hmm…See how the pattern develops?
So the moral of this story: Make sure you only have eyes for each other!
-The Newlywed Guru