A few years back, a friend of mine got married to a man that had three children from a previous relationship. My friend also had three children from a previous relationship. Kind of Brady Bunch situation. So I decided to give her a book on how to combine the two families. She read the book and later told me it had some useful advice. I asked her what she found was most important and here is what she said:
“We took the advice about sitting down with each other and defining what we were trying to accomplish in our marriage and we shared this information with our children in a group setting.”
“We both defined what each of our roles were and how we were going to handle each and all situations. We asked for questions from our children, some of who were adults, and we were surprised how each one had a different idea as to how they thought we were going to function. This was extremely helpful.”
Well, it must have worked because they are still a family. A few bumps along the way, but hey, that’s family! Still going strong after 10 years.